Witnessing your contradictions.
When you say you don’t want to waste any more time, but then you spend 2 hours scrolling on social media or watching trash television (no, this is not self-care).
When you say you’re totally into natural, but you eat fast food daily and have a pantry full of junk food (you can’t say you didn’t know this was bad for you because your body communicates it every day).
When you pray for help and the assistance arrives, but you turn it away (if you weren’t ready, it wouldn’t have come).
When you say you need to focus on yourself for once in your life, then turn around and add 3 OPP’s - other people’s projects to your plate (they don’t need you, they just know you’ll say yes).
What do all these examples have in common? Misalignment.
I think about alignment A LOT. Because alignment is everything. Here’s what it looks like in my head…
Are my thoughts lining up with my words?
Are my words lining up with my actions?
Are my actions leading me toward my vision?
Is life yielding me the results I expect to see? If not, by how much did I miss the mark?
This isn’t about living the perfect life. It’s about agreement within myself. Are all parts of me - mind, heart, body, spirit - in agreement?
When we are not in agreement with ourselves, then life feels like a mixed-bag. You get a little bit of what you want and probably a whole lot more of what you don’t. I don’t like the variety box of chocolates (coconut 🤢). I like the caramel.
Life is already an adventure, just look at families and co-workers. In most cases, we would not choose to spend so much time with these people. 🤣 But these are the folks who give us our greatest lessons and who help us learn to develop the courage to be our most authentic selves.
Willful or unintentional misalignment though, adds hardship to the adventure. Why contribute to living a harder life when you can make things easier for yourself? This is why I think misalignment is torture. Because we have the power to change. We can control what we can control: our time, our relationships, our diets, our reactions, our health, our vote, completion of our goals, and the unfolding of our visions.
We control who we are and who we become.
You may not be where you want to be right now, but you can move your needle forward by assessing your current alignment and making adjustments accordingly. I know that there are growing pains along this journey, but moving through that discomfort is a helluva lot easier than the pain that accompanies stagnation and unfulfillment.
And when you get stuck, here’s a mental hack I use: I put myself in the shoes of someone who has done it and think, “what would they do?” Whether you’re trying to beat an illness, launch your business, or find balance in these historical times, there’s someone on the planet (likely already in your community or social media feed) who has accomplished what you want. If they can find alignment to transform and get what they want out of life, so you can you. All you have to do is take the next right (aligned) step.