Not Playing Small

January 31, 2018

Not Playing Small
"You've been paid for by people who never even saw your face. Your mother's mother, your father's father." - Maya Angelou

Humility you've been paid for image

Maya Angelou spoke of this often in her speeches, the knowing that our ancestors not only paved the way, but paid for us through their hard work, their prayers, their sacrifices and their lives. Everything that we are able to do today is because someone before us wished it, fought for it, advocated for it and spoke it into existence before we were born.
Maya's message penetrated our hearts while we celebrated Tami's milestone 40th birthday. We did it big for five days straight! Massages, a short getaway in the GA mountains, zip-lining, the Janet Jackson concert, cake and ice cream with the fam and then dinner at one of Atl's finest steakhouses. We had fun, we relaxed, we reflected and Tami broke through her fear of heights.

Most importantly, however, we gave thanks to all those who came before us. While in the penthouse suite at a romantic inn in Helen, GA overlooking the field and mountains, we were very present with our presence in that place. A room where surely two black women were once unwelcome. Not able to relish the sunset, the chef's creations or the ambiance. We could enjoy it because our ancestors dreamed it. We could afford it because they already paid for it.

Tami needed to enter this new decade breaking through the obstacles of her own creation. Not just her fear of heights, but also her resistance to living a joyful life and being vulnerable enough to be seen in her fullness by all. Along with 39, Tami laid to rest hiding and playing small.

This life to be lived extravagantly, fearlessly and reverently. We owe it to those who came before and were imprisoned by the words "I can't" for whatever reasons.

Tami can and will.
I can and will.
You can and will.

Stand in your authentic power. Be vibrant.

Tami & Selima

Leave a comment

Comments will be approved before showing up.

Also in Iwilla Remedy Herbalism & Spirituality Blog

How Do Herbalists Make Money?
How Do Herbalists Make Money?

September 28, 2022

There aren’t exactly hundreds of “herbalist” jobs on Indeed, LinkedIn, or Monster for which we can apply. The work is deeply meaningful and rewarding, but let’s be honest, satisfaction without financial stability is stressful.

There are structural challenges herbalists face in trying to build sustainable careers. In this video, I give context for those obstacles and share the most common paths I’ve seen herbalists take to build their careers, pay their bills, and financially thrive.

View full article →

Recipe for Bacterial Vaginosis and Yeast Infections
Recipe for Bacterial Vaginosis and Yeast Infections

September 21, 2022

Bacterial vaginosis is the most common form of smelly vaginal discharge. It’s caused by a shift in the vaginal microbiome. The ratio of beneficial to harmful bacteria shifts where you have less of the former, predominately lactobacillus species, and an overgrowth of the latter. 

This creates an asymptomatic (most common) or symptomatic infection that produces a grayish/off-white, thin discharge, and fishy smell that may be more noticeable during your period or after sex. Pain, burning, itching, and painful or difficult urination can also occur, but these symptoms overlap with a lot of other conditions, so it can indicate another concern to get checked out

In this video, I share 9 holistic tips that help restore your vaginal flora and show you how to make your own herbal vaginal suppositories that provide relief. The herbal formula is also supportive for yeast infections and other forms of vaginitis.  

View full article →

Lactofermentation | Healthy & Simple
Lactofermentation | Healthy & Simple

September 14, 2022

In this short video, I share how lactofermentation works, why it works, and give you the run-down of over 15 health conditions that eating lactofermented foods can help alleviate. I also demonstrate how to make a few quick recipes with ingredients and equipment you likely have in your kitchen right now.

View full article →